No Boyfriend Since Birth

I remember way back in High school, I and my friends took an oath not to engage in a relationship while studying. I took that promise by heart and I am very determined to fulfill it. I manage to finish my studies and enjoyed being a young professional without engaging in a relationship . How did that happened?

Someone even told me she will build a monument for me because of my status. My classmates accused me of being lesbian because they haven't heard that I had a boyfriend ever. People also said, I have very high standards. But the truth is, it is a personal choice.

I choose to move in the times and seasons of my life. I strongly believe that "there's a time for everything, a season for every activity under heaven" (Ecc. 3:1). Every chapter of my life has its own season. While in school, I choose to focus in my studies while enjoying my youth through building friendships and involving in the community I used to belong. In my case, I used to be very active in the church. As a teenager, I also had several crushes waaaaaaaah.... c'mon guys its normal to be attracted to someone. I am not that abnormal as what other people think. Suitors came, but i choose not to entertain. Mind you, some are really good guys (guys from the church even), but I know in my heart its not yet the time.

I have goals as a single person and that is to land in a good career, travel (the world!), meet lots of people and to become an international preacher (haha). I got all those wild dreams when I was in college and I'm very determined to fulfill them. And oh I almost forgot! Get married to the right man when I'm tired of being single. I also have this concept. "as long as my friends are single, then no pressure!"

I experiences the quarter life crises in between, several days I would cry and cry and cry because of so many reasons. Wiki said, the quarter life crisis is a period of life ranging from twenties to thirties, in which a person begins to feel doubtful about their own lives, brought on by the stress of becoming an adult. For me, majority is still unable to reach the things that I want to achieve - growth!

I can say I passed the season of adolescence to being a young adult. I don't have any regret, not even once for not engaging in a relationship for the past XX years! I have enjoyed a lot being single. Enjoying while waiting. Fulfilling my dreams while waiting. Travel while waiting. Hang out with friends while waiting. Enjoying my salary while waiting. Read and read and read while waiting. Serve God while waiting. Yes, there are difficult times in between but I made myself so loaded I almost forgot that I'm waiting. Waiting for what? Waiting for the right man and right time.

To those who are going through or experienced the same situation, I want to say that I am so proud of you! Keep doing and pursuing your passion. Take your time, so what if it takes like forever. Keep your head high with a humble heart. Make use of everything you have now in a wise manner such as your salary, energy and time being a single person. Sooner or later, you'll just meet the biggest surprise of your life - your LIFETIME PARTNER (just like me)!